
My daughter enjoys the "greatest game ever played" in the summer of 2010.
I spent the afternoon of Halloween watching the Disney movie “The Greatest Game Ever Played” with my daughter who is ill. The movie is based on the true story of a 20 year-old caddie who won the 1913 U.S. Open golf championship. He did so against the wishes of his father, and contrary to the wishes of many “gentlemen” in the game. He played the game not for money, not for fame or honor, but simply because it was what he wanted to do and he knew he was good at it.
One of my current clients, the one that I spend the most hours with, is a corporation, rather than a small business which is what I’m used to. With a mom-and-pop business, the owner or manager makes the decisions. I present them with a few options, discuss the pros and cons of the choices, and tell them what I recommend. We make a decision based on the facts (most of the time), and the plan is implemented.
With a corporation, there are many decision-makers involved. Just because one department knows that something is a good idea doesn’t mean that other departments feel the same way. And in my experience so far, getting a good idea to come to fruition is nearly impossible.
Understand, motivate and grow.
Thankfully, the corporation I’m currently working with is in the process of an internal overhaul, and although the the attempt is in its infancy, I am optimistic that the core values employees are encouraged to embrace will also be reflected in upper-management who will lead by example. Management has suggested that staff members read a book called Tribal Leadership by Dave Logan, John King and Halee Fischer-Wright. Published in 2008, the book deals with the tribes that occur within organizations and relates them to findings from an eight-year study of 24,000 people in over two-dozen corporations.
The study results discussed in Tribal Leadership show that “leaders, managers and organizations that fail to understand, motivate, and grow their tribes will find it impossible to succeed in an increasingly fragmented world of business.”
My biggest take-home from the book the first time I read through it was being able to put labels on something I had been aware of, but never knew what it was. The authors describe five ‘tribal stages’ that each of us fall into, ranging from “life sucks”, through “my life sucks”, “I’m great”, “we’re great” and finally, “life is great”. Reading about the stages put tangible descriptions on people that I perhaps liked, but who I didn’t always enjoy doing business with. It also helped me understand how a group of completely different individuals, such as in my Rotary community service organization, can come together for a single cause: to make our world a better place to be. It seems that as like attracts like, members of similar tribal stages can find each other and create power in numbers.
Don’t waste time living someone else’s life.
I flipped through theTribal Leadership book this afternoon when my daughter dozed off at the end of the golf movie. I ended up on page 180. Called “Core Values and a Noble Cause” the chapter covers identifying values and finding a noble cause to unite a tribe. Page 180 speaks of a conversation with Scott Adams, the creator of the Dilbert comic. Adams references a Steve Jobs commencement speech at Stanford University in 2005 as something that inspired him and helped him understand the power people have to influence others.
I found a link to the Jobs speech on the Tribal Leadership website media page and although I am admittedly not an Apple computer fan, I do respect the way the company has created a product and marketing campaign that appeals to so many non-technical, creative people. I don’t believe I had a view of Apple founder Steve Jobs that needed to be changed, but reading the article helped me see him in a new light, and allowed me to understand his motivations and goals.
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life,” Jobs says during the third part of his speech about death. “Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
Reading those words, especially after having just watched “The Greatest Game Ever Played”, reminded me to keep focused on my own dreams and not let myself get bogged down in the drama of corporate office politics that I have recently encountered. I made a note to myself that if I find myself getting frustrated this week due to office drama, I will remind myself about the work I love and have the courage to follow my own intuition.
Throughout my life, I have found that every challenge is a chance to learn something new, and every decision I make, whether at home or at work, brings a new opportunity for growth that can affect my path in life. That thought brings up my favorite quote in the Steve Jobs speech that tells how seemingly unrelated choices made now can be connected to other choices later in life.
“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards,” Jobs explains, ”So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever.”
After thoughts on connecting the dots, love and loss, and finally death, Jobs closes with words of advice to the Stanford graduating class of 2005, words that he borrowed from the back of the final issue of the Whole Earth Catalog in the 1970′s: “Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.”

Another sunset, another day; more lessons learned.
Tomorrow is another day to live and learn, and I intend to stay hungry and foolish in my happy life. I am fortunate to do work that I love and have a passion for. I find time in summer to enjoy the game of golf with rules, order, integrity and an end-goal in mind. Many individuals can play the same course, but end up with drastically different results. Each shot is taken one at a time, and each hole leads to the next. A round of golf with others can certainly bring out the best and worst in a person, blatantly identifying their tribal stage. Perhaps golf is a reflection of life, which truly is the greatest game ever played.
“I see the empty slate before me;
connect the dots and I know how.
Tomorrow brings the next adventure,
living in the now.”
-by Natalie Carpenter, April 2010
Carpe diem!

